Confidence in one's value as a human being is a precious psychological resource and generally a highly positive factor in life; it is correlated with higher achievement, better sex, more satisfying relationships, and of course, an overall sense of competency and satisfaction.
Possessing little self-regard can lead people to become depressed, to fall short of their potential, or to tolerate abusive relationships and situations.
Too much self-love, on the other hand, results in an off-putting sense of entitlement and an inability to learn from failures. It can also be a sign of clinical narcissism, in which individuals may behave in a self-centered, arrogant, and manipulative manner.
Perhaps no other self-help topic has spawned so much advice which is why these "QUICK TIPS" are the bomb diggity when it comes to self esteem......Check them out!
Don’t compare yourself
Comparing ourselves with others is among the top worst things we can do for our self-esteem. Joe has a bigger house and a nicer car than I do. Cindy can swim faster than me. Jennifer has three thousand friends on Facebook and I only have three hundred. This sort of comparing-whether we say it out loud or in our mind can plummet our self-esteem right into the toilet. You don’t know what it’s like to live in someone else’s shoes. For example, Cindy’s parents may have forced her to swim practice all her life. Or while Joe may have a bigger house, and nicer car, he may be miserable with his job and never get to see his family. It may be tough, but the only person you should really be competing with is yourself.
Sit up straight
Believe it or not, our posture has a huge impact on our self-esteem. It is connected to how we’d like to face the world, so if our shoulders are slumped over and head down, we’re bound to feel "less than". Even if your self-confidence isn’t great just yet, work on improving your posture and you’ll soon be feeling more confident. Think about elongating your spine to make yourself as tall as possible. Roll your shoulders back and down, stick your chest out, and tilt your chin up and smile. Feel the difference? Incorporating a regular yoga practice into your movement routine can also help posture significantly!
Studies show that wearing aromas that we are attracted to can also work to boost our self-image. In fact- one study found that women felt more confident in business, social and romantic situations when wearing perfume. The next time you go to the mall, investigate the wonderful world of aromas (whether natural essential oil based or perfumes). Find scents that appeal to you and notice how good you feel wearing them.
Knock on Wood
Some psychologists have found that carrying good luck charms and embracing superstitions can actually help you perform tasks better. Sometimes, I carry a gratitude rock in my pocket, and whenever I go into my pocket and touch that smooth stone it reminds me to think of 3 things that I'm grateful for in that present moment. Being grateful for things you do have instead of focusing on things you don’t have, also works wonders for our self-confidence.
Become Aware of Your Thoughts
Make a point to listen to your thoughts one day. Are you making negative judgments? Do you criticize yourself? What are your thoughts saying to you? Are they mostly negative or positive? If you have a bad habit of negative thinking, you’ll have some work to do. Every time you think a negative thought, say to yourself, “stop”! And replace that thought with a positive one. For example, if you say, “This dress/shirt makes me look fat”, you’ll say to yourself, “stop!” and replace it with “I look great in this dress/shirt” (even if you don’t believe it…yet). Or just change your shirt.....but you get the point!!
Flirt a Little
Social psychologists have shown that laughing, smiling and engaging in slight physical contact throughout the day can heighten self-image. Sometimes, there’s a fine line between a harmless happy flirtatious attitude and over-the-top inappropriate, so be careful with this one. Point being- Just a little more laughter and light-heartedness goes a long way when it comes to boosting our mood.
Get Pumped Up
Tony Robbins has a great strategy to pump you up. Every morning when you get up, shake your body vigorously! Shake out your arms and legs, run in place, breathe in and out quickly, then stop quickly and do it all again. Then clap and shout the word, “Yes!” five times. Sounds weird I know, but try it and you’ll see what a power boost it can provide! A good dose of exercise, doing whatever it is you LIKE to do (just make sure you sweat and work hard) also helps boost our self-image. So make sure you move more to feel your best! At LiveExercise.com we work hard to bring ALL TYPES of different workouts straight into your very own home through both LIVE classes and an amazing online portal of over 6,000 different workouts (including Pilates and Yoga as well!).
Do Daily Affirmations
One of the best ways to alleviate anxiety and boost our self-image is to use daily affirmations. What are affirmations you say? They are sentences or phrases that you want to believe about yourself. For example, if you struggle with energy or motivation, your affirmation may sound like, “I am energetic and motivated.” The key to affirmations is repetition. And always start out with "I am". Say your personal phrases throughout the day whenever you think of them. Or plan to say them in the mirror- Ten times in the morning and ten times before bed, and watch your self-esteem rise.
Focus on Your Strengths
Make a list of all your strengths and read them daily. Focusing on our strengths helps us to appreciate ourselves more, builds self-confidence and crowds out those negative voices that keep us down.
Tips for LIVING FRESH with High Self-Esteem:
Remember to not compare yourself- when you catch yourself comparing, Think STOP! And think of all things you do have verses all the things you don’t have.
Put those shoulders back, and chin up- maintain good posture!
Wear fragrances you love and feel good in.
Keep a gratitude rock handy, or a religious symbol to remind you that luck is always with you, God is always on your side and that you HAVE WAY MORE than you "lack".
Watch your thoughts- Reframe negative thinking to more positive thoughts.
Smile, be nice, joke around and flirt a little.
Move your body! Do what feels good- Just get movin’ and shakin’!
Make yourself a list of daily affirmations and repeat morning and evening.
Frequently remind yourself of all your positive traits and strengths.
And no matter what....KNOW...